Men tend to have an over-valuation of experiences.
For a woman to be able to genuinely trust them, this needs to be addressed.
Our inner child craves experiences.
Our inner child wants to “feel good” and to be comfortable.
Our inner child is totally focused on what we like and don’t like.
Our inner child for the most part dictates what “feels right” and wants to get away from what “doesn’t feel right”.
Our inner child gives us visions and ideas of what’s true, who we are, and what’s to come.
Our inner child makes meanings about people and events in our lives.
Therefore, our inner child has completely disabled us from being adults.
Our minds, bodies, and relationships have been thoroughly hijacked by the demands of our inner child.
And so we have found ourselves settling for co-dependency without realizing it.
If what we consistently need is an experience that “feels good” – we are unconsciously placing the burden of “being masculine” onto others – especially our partners.
Someone has to pick up the pieces, and it’s usually the women – while men tend to think it’s themselves.
Not all women can handle this, and so they may or may not go into “princess” mode, but that doesn’t change the fact that they are very likely being energetically asked to become their adult male partner’s mother.
Addressing this issue is addressing where we think “anxiety is bad” or “not feeling good is bad”. Staying conscious of the body in these experiences is where the alchemy occurs.
If we are greedy and hoarding experiences, we are going to be very impatient.
If we are trying to get something accomplished for the sake of comfort, we are inevitably going to sabotage that goal.
It all depends on where our goals are truly coming from.
When a goal is coming from the right place, the experience may or not be enjoyable, but that’s not the point.
And then, paradoxically, every experience becomes enjoyable at some level even if we don’t necessarily “like” it.
Joshua
