A light that never runs out

As long as I maintain that my shadows are BAD, or a threat to me to be experienced in some way, I am beholden to them. It is a self-sabotaging shadow that says “I should be ashamed of my shadows”. If I deny their existence and try to sculpt my image to be perfect, I […]

He genuinely cares

A man has to get to the point where he genuinely cares more about her wellbeing than he cares about being seen and respected. Until then, she is dealing with an immense liability and it’s safer and more in integrity for her to be on her own.

Vanity Masculinity

Vanity Masculinity——————99%+ of all masculinity we see is not genuine masculine, but vanity masculinity.People say “A man should provide”, “A man should be solid and tough”, and “A man should have his woman/kids under control”.And so men literally perform, just an an actor performs, to appear tough, to appear certain, and to appear like he […]

How do you know you’re correct?

In the worldy roles I play, in which I frequently mentor people and determine some degree of “truth” to assist others in their spiritual and psychological evolution – a big responsibility is placed on me. It’s usually some version of “How do you know you’re correct, and not just falling for some kind of fantasy […]

Accusing the other of projecting

Accusing the other of projecting… How many times has that worked out successfully for you? I’m betting that the answer..rhymes with Zero Accusing the other of projecting is a common defensive response. Accusing the other of misunderstanding you…completely disregard their experience. And then of course, you gather and provide proof they are projecting. Why do […]

Cult around “polarity teachings”

There is a massive online cult around “polarity teachings”. The reason men (and some women) are crazy about insisting that women should submit is so that the man will feel safe. That way, he gets to feel powerful without having to grow. “If you want a man to melt you like butter, you have to […]

I have “arrived” somewhere

The temptations we have to think we know something and have “arrived” somewhere are incredible. Our ego wants certainty and will absolutely be sure that “I have no more blind spots” and “I’m done” and “I got somewhere”. These false conclusions, or “Landings” get us in the biggest trouble. Often someone will attack me, assuming […]

An over-valuation of experiences

Men tend to have an over-valuation of experiences. For a woman to be able to genuinely trust them, this needs to be addressed. Our inner child craves experiences. Our inner child wants to “feel good” and to be comfortable. Our inner child is totally focused on what we like and don’t like. Our inner child […]

Trying to “Crack the code”

Relationships are the most sensitive, intimate, important, and frequently the most difficult aspect of human lives. People have been trying to “Crack the code” on this issue for a very long time. As of now, I can see 3 different realms of solutions people have come up with. One solution is for both partners to […]

It’s much easier to be feminine

As men, for a lot of us, it’s much easier to be feminine. We cannot access our full range of motion, mind, love, and genius. It’s less brutal. It’s more comfortable. And then we can become convinced it’s the better way to be, so we can implore other people to be that way. No one […]