Embracing Relational Death+Rebirth Cycles (for Men)

There are some important things for men to understand about relationship challenges with women. Even when unpleasant, these are often a major opportunity one is not recognizing. Making a repair is only possible if the relationship becomes stronger than ever. Pain is unavoidable. Suffering is not necessary. Regardless of which decisions you make, you’re likely […]

How to Receive a Woman’s Love

Dear Men. A woman’s perspective, felt experience, and developmental process is considerably different than a man’s. For a man, understanding a woman’s communication style and underlying agenda is often highly counterintuitive and thus is seems incredibly mysterious. It is in fact incredibly simple. Men tend to make things much more complex than […]

Natural Idealization of Partners and Teachers

I have been going through a deeply personal process around grieving ex-partners. It’s not as simple as “I’m opening my heart again”. In learning about the stages of development I have come to identify the way that I naively idealized these partners, and that is actually what is being released now. As children, we need […]

The Hidden Predator in Women and Men

The Hidden Predator in Women and Men ———————————————– Is this person a predator, is that person a predator? Am I a predator, are you a predator? Predation. The “ultimate topic” within transformation and shamanic integration of the true self. This issue cannot be avoided any longer, as it has increasingly revealed itself and become more […]

Resolving the Needs of a Sexualized Inner Child

Part of the reason I write is to find clarity on behalf of people I work with, people who are close to me, and world issues that seem to be stuck in confusion. This topic of sexual trauma is of course a very delicate topic, and certainly not to be taken lightly. And […]

PLEASE STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELF

Over the years of cleansing and purifying myself of stagnant emotions, I have discovered an enormous well of anger inside of my organs. If I hadn’t discovered this and began clearing it all out, I honestly believe I would be extremely sick by now. My organs would be shutting down from the sheer weight […]

I want the Truth.

I want the Truth. I don’t want you to hide your real feelings from me. I don’t want you to protect me from myself. I want only the Truth. If it erodes my sense of self– that’s okay, it’s only temporary. Let’s do this. I don’t want the cutesy version […]

What if I really let her existence move me?

What if I really let her existence move me? What would happen if I stopped cramming life into convenient and neatly packaged little concepts as if my holy experiences can simply be tagged and filed into the appropriate compartment? What if I risked having my breath taken away, in awe, even through waves of discomfort? […]

Overstuffed

I’ve soaked it all up like a sponge. Sopping wet, overloaded with fertility. I am more saturated than there are words to describe. There’s just so much weight to carry, and it’s not all mine. And so it’s a bit too obvious, it’s time to wring me out. Each pregnant pore is ready to gush […]

MALE DOMINANCE IS NOT THE SOLUTION TO INERTIA

The reason why men are drawn to try to dominate women is that they do not know how to be with (aka lovingly dominate) themselves. Oftentimes, the man faces the problem of inertia. Inert = stationary and unmoving. Lack of energy. It is often easier for a man to be energized as a reaction toward […]