“I love you”

Honestly, most people are saying “I love you” because they want to hear it back. This is dishonest communication. This is called “Giving to get”, and is a form of manipulation. “Thank you” is not a bad response to “I love you”. It doesn’t mean the other person doesn’t love you, it means they feel […]

Cat Magic

Last night I was teaching Cat Magic to my cat. I’ve learned (and of course am always learning) how magic works for humans, and last night I learned how to communicate with my cat in a way no one had ever communicated with him before. The transmission comes through physical touch, responsiveness and pressure, telepathic […]

Embracing Relational Death+Rebirth Cycles (for Men)

There are some important things for men to understand about relationship challenges with women. Even when unpleasant, these are often a major opportunity one is not recognizing. Making a repair is only possible if the relationship becomes stronger than ever. Pain is unavoidable. Suffering is not necessary. Regardless of which decisions you make, you’re likely […]

How to Receive a Woman’s Love

Dear Men. A woman’s perspective, felt experience, and developmental process is considerably different than a man’s. For a man, understanding a woman’s communication style and underlying agenda is often highly counterintuitive and thus is seems incredibly mysterious. It is in fact incredibly simple. Men tend to make things much more complex than […]

Natural Idealization of Partners and Teachers

I have been going through a deeply personal process around grieving ex-partners. It’s not as simple as “I’m opening my heart again”. In learning about the stages of development I have come to identify the way that I naively idealized these partners, and that is actually what is being released now. As children, we need […]

The Hidden Predator in Women and Men

The Hidden Predator in Women and Men ———————————————– Is this person a predator, is that person a predator? Am I a predator, are you a predator? Predation. The “ultimate topic” within transformation and shamanic integration of the true self. This issue cannot be avoided any longer, as it has increasingly revealed itself and become more […]

Resolving the Needs of a Sexualized Inner Child

Part of the reason I write is to find clarity on behalf of people I work with, people who are close to me, and world issues that seem to be stuck in confusion. This topic of sexual trauma is of course a very delicate topic, and certainly not to be taken lightly. And […]

PLEASE STOP GASLIGHTING YOURSELF

Over the years of cleansing and purifying myself of stagnant emotions, I have discovered an enormous well of anger inside of my organs. If I hadn’t discovered this and began clearing it all out, I honestly believe I would be extremely sick by now. My organs would be shutting down from the sheer weight […]

I want the Truth.

I want the Truth. I don’t want you to hide your real feelings from me. I don’t want you to protect me from myself. I want only the Truth. If it erodes my sense of self– that’s okay, it’s only temporary. Let’s do this. I don’t want the cutesy version […]

What if I really let her existence move me?

What if I really let her existence move me? What would happen if I stopped cramming life into convenient and neatly packaged little concepts as if my holy experiences can simply be tagged and filed into the appropriate compartment? What if I risked having my breath taken away, in awe, even through waves of discomfort? […]