The masculine is for LOVING the feminine.
If he doesn’t have the ability to love her properly, she will not feel loved and then yes of course she is in a depression (which is suppressed rage).
Or she is just extremely angry.
So either she needs to learn how to tell him No, or he needs to learn how to love her properly.
If he does not love her and can not love her, then he needs to come clean about his own inability to be the sun.
Men come up with a million ways to ask “What if her unlovability is her own fault?”
It’s not. It is definitely not.
He made an arrangement he could not uphold.
He made a commitment he could not keep. If he needs to leave it’s because he is looking at her as a project to extract from and not realizing the massive effect he has on her.
Her state is a direct reflection of his internal reality.
He can benefit everyone best by fully owning this.
That’s what genuinly not having preferences about her state looks like.
He is able to See what he created.
He cannot commit to a woman only if he has preferences about wishing to some degree she’d be the man instead.
This doesn’t mean he shouldn’t leave, it means he takes responsibility for his shadow reasons in doing so.
