What a woman offers. God

The vulnerability a woman provides fuels a man spiritually like nothing else can. Only a man who values this golden spiritual substance is going to be capable of truly valuing what a woman offers. God. If he can’t see the benefit, he’s going to feel entitled to her efforts. Ironically, when you stop needing her […]

He genuinely cares

A man has to get to the point where he genuinely cares more about her wellbeing than he cares about being seen and respected. Until then, she is dealing with an immense liability and it’s safer and more in integrity for her to be on her own.

Accusing the other of projecting

Accusing the other of projecting… How many times has that worked out successfully for you? I’m betting that the answer..rhymes with Zero Accusing the other of projecting is a common defensive response. Accusing the other of misunderstanding you…completely disregard their experience. And then of course, you gather and provide proof they are projecting. Why do […]

Cult around “polarity teachings”

There is a massive online cult around “polarity teachings”. The reason men (and some women) are crazy about insisting that women should submit is so that the man will feel safe. That way, he gets to feel powerful without having to grow. “If you want a man to melt you like butter, you have to […]

Trying to “Crack the code”

Relationships are the most sensitive, intimate, important, and frequently the most difficult aspect of human lives. People have been trying to “Crack the code” on this issue for a very long time. As of now, I can see 3 different realms of solutions people have come up with. One solution is for both partners to […]

Genuine spirituality

I wrote this as a comment but it was mysteriously deleted from FB: Yeshua was a spiritually awakened master magician. Not everyone wants to learn how to do what he did or the type of relationship he had. The male ego can be a very useful tool to sculpt as long as one is identified […]

I love to Party.

I love to Party. ————– If your objective is to be right and prove someone wrong, it is impossible to learn something new. Learning is not a threat if your objective is to create a beautiful life for yourself and others. We don’t need to be pitted against each other to survive. Our wounds lie […]

MIMICKING LIFE IS NOT LIFE

MIMICKING LIFE IS NOT LIFE —————————— If a man hasn’t proven himself thoroughly, what he thinks is her “submission” is a trauma response. Looking for a submissive woman means looking for a woman who is in a state of fawn and freeze. Anger and hurt repressors are very attractive to men who don’t want to […]

Codependency is managing the emotions of the other person

If I’m angry, but I want to protect the other person from my anger, I don’t trust them to be able to breath and have an experience (or not), so I hold back my anger. Codependency is managing the emotions of the other person because you don’t trust them to survive the experience of their […]

The subconscious desire to make your partner into your enemy

The subconscious desire to make your partner (or friend) into your enemy is the cause of many projections and imaginations. If they are allowed to be their messy human selves, without it being a threat to you, they are going to find harmony with you faster. Name your needs and boundaries. Make them as non-critiquing […]