If I believe I am entitled to love and respect I am wrapped up in an addiction.
The only love and respect I’ll get are from people who buy into my entitlement.
My own needs are created by my beliefs that I don’t deserve love and respect.
When I get to the point where I’m willing to confront these beliefs it makes me much more respectable because I no longer buy into the need for love.
I meet my own needs and I become a much safer person for others to discover the same.
My cravings for love and respect point me directly to the unresolved issue within.
If I externalize the issue I am sabotaging my own perception.
This of course does not imply that I have any obligation to hang out with people who I don’t want to be with. But now I get to choose from a different place – what is the full truth for me without hidden motives?
If your identity becomes love, is there anything not to love? Worthiness or unworthiness does not exist. Seeing myself as worthy us qn addiction I need to eventually grow out of. In the meantime, making a concession toward the false identity of I am worthy can sometimes be helpful and can sometimes hold me back depending on how much will I have access to in that moment (willingness to maintain awareness).
The human benefits from being loved to find safety. This is an action we need to go through, in our hero’s journey. AND, true loving awareness has no needs and that is what is being integrated. Both are true and we must build our capacity to hold this tension. That is what building the Will means. Becoming the True Integrated Will. The ego can never be fulfilled. When we are loved fully to ego gets integrated and the need resolved. So we need to meet our needs and recognize they are fundamental distortions at the same time. Being human and cosmic at the same time is the feat of full embodied awakening.
