As men, for a lot of us, it’s much easier to be feminine.
We cannot access our full range of motion, mind, love, and genius.
It’s less brutal. It’s more comfortable.
And then we can become convinced it’s the better way to be, so we can implore other people to be that way.
No one acting from consciousness needs other people to change anything.
Because consciousness is our masculine energy.
Regardless of our gender, more consciousness makes us stronger and healthier.
Humility is the depth to which the body allows consciousness to penetrate.
So, paradoxically, women generally are more available to consciousness while at the same time, they are more identified with the body.
Men are typically less identified with the body and tend to flaunt the more meager consciousness that they do have.
This has created a major imbalance.
Men need to learn from women, and women really can only learn from certain qualified men.
For us to become our more authentic selves we literally have to dig into the traumas in the body.
The stuck emotion has been compacted into our cells and so there is literally no space left fo consciousness to fill those cells.
Our draw to feminine comforts keeps us feeling safe.
Digging into our bodies is a great challenge.
And so many of us opt to live a lie rather than doing The Work to change.
If we are identified with the body, and we do not have sufficient consciousness anchored in, it’s very easy to perceive everything backwards.
We will perceive women as owing us and needing to save us, we will perceive authentic masculinity as toxic and abusive, we will demand others to become vulnerable and we will even pity them for not “being able” to be vulnerable when in reality the only reason we want this is so that we don’t have to feel our own unprocessed emotions.
There is a massive difference between being “capable” versus recognizing the program which says “I need to” to be a “good person”.
Being vulnerable habitually has become the new people pleasing and as a result no one can get anything done.
Our minds will have one rationalization after another about why it’s better to be feminine because we can all be more “loving and connected”.
Actually, we are a lot more loving and connected when we are actually trustworthy, which results in us being less reliant on being loving and connected.
We cannot see beyond these ideals to see that our safety-seeking is literally making us sick.
The habits of our mind and body are ruling our perceptions.
Most people will never wake up out of these habits.
Of course, the opposite issue is where false masculinity actually is toxic.
Grinding from a state of dissociation, not taking care of ourselves, and not being able to have fun.
Not being able to value the process of the feminine.
To be clear, what I’m NOT saying is “Act more masculine” – only doing the work will make it authentic.
There’s a reason this work is called The Middle Way!
