MIMICKING LIFE IS NOT LIFE
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If a man hasn’t proven himself thoroughly, what he thinks is her “submission” is a trauma response.
Looking for a submissive woman means looking for a woman who is in a state of fawn and freeze.
Anger and hurt repressors are very attractive to men who don’t want to do the work to actually earn trust.
There is an ALIVENESS to a genuine submission because it is not submission to HIM but to LIFE.
If he makes it about HIMSELF and his image, he is living a delusion.
We want to make it all about ourselves and our “success” so we can romp around celebrating our dopamine hits.
This isn’t devotion, this is USING.
Genuine devotion to a woman means I don’t need to feel good as a result.
I might even need to scream and yell about how frustrated I am.
It does not come with a certain set of ascribed behaviors.
It means I am devoted to REALITY because women’s nervous systems are innately more authentic than men’s.
This is not a value judgment.
She has more genetic material and a man’s devotion to her benefits him because he becomes more REAL as a result as well if he allows himself to LEARN.
He might know more, and that is his COMFORT zone.
Becoming more REAL is not about feeling good.
Depending on feeling good is a symptom of escapism, which is FALSE.
What I am describing is a razor-thin line to be walked which is extremely difficult to accomplish.
Most men bow out of this very early because we are innately lazy.
Freeze/flight response.
And don’t get it twisted, this is not about one gender being subservient to the other.
This is not about her feeling “satisfied”.
This is about a monumentally larger reality.
This is about the BIG Her.
LIFE.
Her response to only a side effect to where he is genuinely at.
Most people are trying to MIMIC walking that line instead of actually walking it.
MIMICKING a full belly doesn’t mean you ate well.
MIMICKING an adult is what only a child can do.
I have previously called this “The Lie of Behaviorism”.
If a man is looking for a woman who is MIMICKING submission to life, he is depriving himself of the real thing and will ALWAYS end up disappointed.
Some people are very good actors. And some people mimic so well that they fool themselves.
Truly walking the razor’s edge means being willing to know nothing.
Not knowing is what’s actually real.
Joshua
