A woman’s ability to say, imply, and to act on her “NO!” is her greatest resource.Minimal explanation needed.
Explaining herself will often diffuse her No and invite questioning.
For many women, saying No is also their greatest FEAR.
The man is afraid of how he feels hearing No, and so she is also afraid of how he’ll feel (and act) when she says No.
To say No to a man can feel like saying No to LOVE.
But actually, her ability to say No IS love.
If she can’t trust herself to say NO when necessary,
she can’t trust herself to properly say YES.
Saying No may lead to a desert of attention.
It may lead to an emotional eruption in which she temporarily feels less safe than before.
Her faith in herself must be strongly intact in facing this resistance. In facing her own misogyny.
Men, in our narcissistic aggrandizing obsession,
want to avoid her saying No at all cost.
We will seduce her with love and protection.
We will “teach” her about polarities and how things are “supposed” to be.
We will shove logic in her face and prove how wrong she is.
We will convince her community to assist us in gaslighting her.
If we are successful, we will eventually have an automaton who has been trained to regurgitate our logic, so she will habitually invalidate herself.
And if we have been thorough in our gaslighting, she will also invalidate other women who demonstrate any kind of defiance in their spine.
A woman’s No is holy.
Whether it’s coming from trauma or truth, it really doesn’t matter.
It will shake out what’s true one way or the other.
The desert of love is an illusion.
There is a huge and glorious garden of seeds underground, just waiting to grow once it gets a little water.
The Garden of Yes can only spring forth from the apparent Desert of No.
And so, it’s actually a Garden of No when seen collapsed and seen accurately.
No, for the protection of the innocent.
No, for giving a voice to the voiceless.
No may even need to be spoken when demands are made to step into the arena of reality. This is where women’s mysteries shine.
How could saying No to reality be beneficial?
Because: No fortifies oneself to bear more pressures.
No is, paradoxically, therefore still the pathway into reality regardless of how it appears.
No is a magical spell.
In this way, Saying No is the pathway to the True and Authentic Yes.
Lead Storyweaver
Joshua Edjida is a multidimensional artist, experience designer, author, public speaker/comedian, and transformational leadership facilitator. Originally from California, he currently lives in Colorado, and also enjoys traveling in Thailand, Bali, or in Europe.
