Confidence is a persona

Confidence is a persona. There is no one to be confident. “You” don’t need to learn how to be confident. This is a false construct. Is the sun confident? Is a newborn baby confident? It’s just an idea. Life grows. Nature is allowed to be nature. You’re off the hook from being somebody.

Universal principles

People often get pissed off about universal principles because they can appear to de-value their unique perspective. We can easily shun an approach which is helpful, from a place of rebellion. It only hurts themselves. People get stuck for years and decades due to this rebellion. This includes over-loyalty to religious affiliation, cultures of origin, […]

There is nothing wrong with you

Every distortion you have is a reflection of a deeper truth. There is nothing wrong with you. You are a holy, innocent being. Doing “the work” is necessary and can be extremely challenging, but please don’t imagine this is a reflection of who YOU are. It is totally unrelated. Your nervous system state doesn’t define […]

Allowing Projections

As a guide for people on their personal journeys I have had to realize over the course of many years that it is very important for me to allow people to have their projections and misunderstandings about me. If for example they see me as a narcissist or manipulator or however it is that they […]

Hunger seeks hunger

A huge amount of “spiritual community” consists of people hungrily seeking resonance. A community who “just gets me”. And sometimes, they find it. But which “me” do they “get”? The shadow self. Hunger seeks hunger. Trauma seeks trauma. Grasping seeks grasping. And so when we want to find out who “resonates” with our journey, we […]

A skill one BECOMES

Ordinary storytelling is about satisfying an audience. Storyweaving is about taking an audience places they have never been before. Ordinary storytelling is a skill one learns. Storyweaving is a skill one BECOMES. Ordinary storytelling is focused on the plot, the characters, the dialogue, and the stakes. Storyweaving operates outside of time, in the silent spaces […]

True submission

True submission is how she leads him spiritually… The key difference is not actually the submission component, but how it is misused and misrepresented. What is described there is not actually submission, it is giving up and giving away one’s power. True submission is how she leads him spiritually. It is never bartered or exchanged, […]

Sorry, not sorry

I lost a lot of friends when I stopped identifying with suffering. It was very much worth it. Some people want me to stay relatable. But that’s not who I am. Sorry, not sorry. I am much more humble this way, to life and to myself.

How much love is Enough?

How much love is Enough? —————————– When a man is loved properly, he stops needing and desiring to “get” love – the love he receives works to restore his integrity. Then, he becomes capable of focusing on giving love without expectation for it ever being returned. His natural way of “receiving” love is facilitated through […]

Getting your small self to become a genius

Getting your small self to become a genius: It’s not going to work! It’s always going to fail! Not because something is wrong with you. The small self is not you. It seems like it’s you, but it’s not. The small self is like your glasses – the lens you are looking through. You expect […]