Dealing with our own narcissism

Dealing with our own narcissism is how we end suffering. If we are not internally oriented this way, no amount of effort or hope is going to make any significant difference in the quality of our experience. Our own narcissism can appear in the typical overt ways, such as greed, bullying, and condescension, but it […]

Magic is a Process

Magic is a Process ——————- The human nervous system is a living, breathing organism. It is not an event, It is a continual process. Even when you are not aware of it. Whether you are doing nothing, eating, or sleeping, there is a process underway. The needs and state and other information bits are all […]

The exact same words

The exact same words can be coming from strength or from weakness. If you can’t FEEL where it’s coming from, you are not understanding what is being communicated. “I’m leaving” can be an act of revenge or an act of creation. “Not today” can be said in humor or from fear. “I love you” can […]

I am not looking for students

I am not looking for students. I am not trying to teach you when I write here: I am just sharing my poetry. I write what I See and what’s apparent to me in that moment. If you learn something, that’s just a positive side effect. Sometimes I “teach” someone on an individual basis. That […]

Needs are a portal into the true self

Needs are a portal into the true self. Experiencing needs is a very human thing. Under that need is an unprocessed emotion. The need is not met because the emotion is not met. Judging (and not expressing) the need keeps the perception of the need stuck in place. Simply because a need may be “coming […]

Relational damage

Relational damage causes one to believe “I am not allowed to have my needs met”. Because of this, we jump to conclusions regarding when others share their needs. It can be easy to misinterpret the sharing of needs as demands. As a result, our shadow response may be to make demands. When I am sharing […]

The masculine is for LOVING the feminine.

The masculine is for LOVING the feminine. If he doesn’t have the ability to love her properly, she will not feel loved and then yes of course she is in a depression (which is suppressed rage). Or she is just extremely angry. So either she needs to learn how to tell him No, or he […]

Women innately understand magic

Our last men’s group meeting introduced the first concepts of magic. This is important, not just because we want to become skilled magicians, but because women innately understand magic better than men. This is my way of bringing men closer to reality. This is a path to becoming capable of properly Seeing a woman. Women […]

The Two Sides of the Dreaming Membrane

The Two Sides of the Dreaming Membrane ———————————————— There are two sides to reality. For a human being, one side exists on the worldly side of the dreaming membrane – this is the perspective of the human. The other side exists on the lucid side of the dreaming membrane – this is the perspective of […]

If He Truly Loves Her

If He Truly LovesHer, he wants her to be capable and competent regardless of his interest in her. This doesn’t mean he wants her to be “independent”, but he wants her to be capable of being independent. A self-centered man wants to keep her disabled and dependent on him so he can feel important and […]