If your motive for changing your life is because your life sucks, that might seem to work initially but in the long run, it is just about the least effective reason out there.
In fact, if you need a reason to justify having a good life, you’re already trapped in the rational mind.
This is the same way loveless marriages are formed and the same way wars are started.
Through rationalization.
If we are making choices based on what we don’t want, even subtly, we are acting from a place of conditioning. Not from our wholeness.
Making business decisions because you want more money? It’s probably because you don’t want to be broke.
Taking a vacation because you want freedom?
It’s probably because you don’t want to be trapped.
Following through because you want someone else to be happy?
It’s probably because you don’t want them to be unhappy.
Almost everyone on this planet is living their lives based on rationalization which is only ever a response to what they don’t want. This is the fight or flight system at work.
Making choices based on our authentic desires does not come from rationalization, it comes from openness. Spaciousness. Fun. Just because.
Making decisions just because is the non-rationalized reason.
Making decisions just because you feel like it brings your play and curiosity into the mix.
However, even this can be rationalized too if you aren’t precise:
“I should make decisions just because I feel like it because I read about this concept and now I don’t want to make decisions from the wrong place”.
See how tricky this is? We are conditioned to act from this preventative plan-making, scheming, fear-based, control-obsessed, data-driven mindset.
And much of the time it may even work. At a cost.
It sucks all the fun out of life.
It might satisfy an addictive fix, but it won’t bring fulfillment. Giving up on satisfaction makes space for fulfillment to be possible, as risky as it may seem.
Chasing satisfaction is a hamster wheel of reward and punishment.
There is a better way. Your way.
Joshua Edjida
