Why do polarity teachings exist (as they are typically shared)?
Because people are experiencing lack and want to experience abundance.
Why are they fearing lack?
Because they have been programmed to do so.
They have triggers around lack, and so abundance appears to be the answer to “fix” it.
And so men are trained to become “dominant” and women are trained to be “submissive”.
This isn’t “wrong”, there is some natural polarity that emerges, but it’s simply not the whole story. Having these are a GOAL muddies the waters because the version of ourselves who takes those in as a GOAL is not typically prepared for such and so it ends up being ACTING.
It’s an oversimplification to steamroll the utterly important NUANCE of the human experience.
If a woman isn’t also trained to be dominant, she’s missing out on a big part of life.
If she can’t be dominant, she can’t trust herself to be submissive.
If she is not complete without a man dominating her, her own inner masculine (consciousness) is going to be weak and wavering.
If a man is purely dominant and does not learn how to be submissive, he can’t feel his feelings. He can’t empathize with others. He doesn’t have space to receive the holy spirit.
And he can’t receive her saying “No” when she needs to.
And thus, he fears the void space and the annihilation of his identity.
A dominant man and a safe man are not necessarily the same thing. A man programmed to be purely dominant is inside of a prison of his own making.
If I can’t accept her saying No, that’s on me.
If I can’t take feedback, that’s on me.
If I need a relationship to be happy, that’s on me.
If a woman not being submissive is triggering, that’s on me.
We are tasked with awakening a sleeping animal, ourselves.
Living in the waking state will not match up with these polarity rules. These rules are made to feel safe, and to literally play roles.
The waking state is not focused on the lack of a relationship or the lack of harmony. It is not focused on success or the resulting safe feelings of success.
Teachings that may have worked and been useful at one point become useless and expired at a different point.
If we crystalize everything we have experienced into a “rule” for life, we cut ourselves off from learning. Continuously learning means regularly throwing everything out and starting over.
Otherwise, we are cursed with arrogantly embodying IDEAS, rather than living authentically.
Joshua Edjida
