Allowing Projections

If for example they see me as a narcissist or manipulator or however it is that they see me, as it is important that I respect their

process and encourage them to honor their perceptions whatever that might entail.

This empowers people to make their own decisions and to learn to trust themselves and therefore even if this process is at the expense of our relationship it’s still the best teaching I can offer at that time to that person, because that’s what they actually need in order to tr

ust themselves.

If my own fixation to be seen accurately were my priority instead, this would further divorce people from their intuitions and would not result in a useful relationship anyway.

For me, this has been a particularly challenging reality to come to terms with because the Enneagram type 4 fixation is specifically on been seen accurately and trying to mitigate the pain of other people’s projections upon me.

It is quite an accomplishment for me in my own universe to be capable accepting the role of villain in someone else’s universe.

It’s obvious to me now that any guide or teacher who prioritizes their own image over their students process is not showing up for the right reasons.

It is actually an incredible gift to have the opportunity to humble oneself to the process in all its mystery because one never knows what sort of immense gifts are going to emerge as a result. If I am the villain and the object of the trigger in someone’s world, more power to them in banishing me as needed until such a time if and when it becomes relevant to repair.

And here is a photo of a fish I found getting accupuncture!