AM I IN LOVE?
The ‘love’ feeling most people recognize…that endorphins high…is actually just chemistry created through co-dependent fulfillment of unmet needs.
Should we choose to meet those needs ourselves and then approach the same person without experiencing the ‘high’ we can be fooled into believing the lack of drama means we are no longer in love.
Love is not chemistry
The whole purpose of exploring our attachments is to become so deeply vulnerable into them knowing they will eventually be broken and burned away…therby revealing the next layer of sovereignty either inside or outside of the same relationship.
It’s always for our soul’s evolution that we desire to be with another…and if we can consciously come to terms with that fact that we are ‘using’ each other for that purpose, it’s so much easier to allow the nervous system to do its thing without taking it personally.
We can love anybody we want to…anyone we get to know intimately becomes ever more beautiful…and so to me, being IN love is the conscious decision we make to engage deeply in relating once the heart has made its request to connect.
It can be scary or even triggering to strip the romance from ‘romantic’ love in this way, it may feel as if we are losing something, but the truth is we become much more present and available as lovers without all of the distracting stories attached.