This is a great time to discover our true motives for emulating others, for attempting to attain really anything at all.
Diving into truth reveals our backward thinking, our unnecessary protective habits, searching for whatever feels like home.
Our true motives very often are caused by wanting to be seen in a certain way, especially by ourselves. This is what it looks like when shame is driving.
If we can become safe in being humiliated in front of ourselves, nothing can harm us and we move toward returning to the zero point of self-image.
A True sense of Safety has absolutely nothing to do with circumstances and everything to do with trusting in our own competency, resilience, and significance.
Seeing ourselves as totally capable is the best decision we can ever make, and this individuation process is often ignored in all of the fancy spiritual discussions.
Happy Sunday ???
UPDATE From my comment in our group:
Structure is necessary for wildness to truly be trustworthy, as you alluded toward. A baby is wild and innocent but that doesn’t make their decisions trustworthy because they lack structure.
This is where the boundaries discussion comes in, as (healthy) leadership tends to demonstrate what strong boundaries look and feel like.
Those who set the container need not be the strongest or wisest, but heirarchy is necessary in order to simply organize what being on the “same page” consists of.
Encouraging the wildness is also why I enjoy being available for all personal questions ?