Necessary mindset to “be your own shaman”

Find a desire within you to come clean, to be truly in integrity, for its own sake.

Not to get anywhere, to get some kind of reward, not to impress anyone.

Simply to come clean for the sake of coming clean and to stop betraying yourself.

Learn to test your systemic beliefs so that you can process the emotional repressions that are driving them. If you cannot test to see what’s buried, it stays buried.

Intend to stalk and address your own narcissism and addictions.

Become the cause of your decisions instead of your decisions being the effect of unconscious motives.

This involves needs work – stalking and becoming conscious of unconscious needs that your system has been trained are impossible to meet and therefore are preemptively rejected.

Intend humility toward reality. If you are addicted to being right, you are also addicted to avoiding reality. Being humble toward this whole issue requires the willingness to change your mind fundamentally from one moment to another.

Recognize that self-shaming, self-critiquing, and self-loathing are fundamentally arrogant.

These tendencies go against the nature of reality. Your mind, your false self, is arrogant toward the innocence of your true being.

Coming clean about your arrogance and being in touch with your innocence requires you to honor the genuine (though perhaps understated) power of your true self.

Compassion, kindness, and generosity of spirit grow your Will. This creates an upward spiral instead of a downward spiral. The more you give of yourself (in healthy and harmonious ways), the more you become capable of giving of yourself.

Dominating, creating division, blaming, and shaming add unnecessary additional weights to carry. The habit of protecting the false self is not useful. At the same time, being capable of standing up for the true self is entirely useful, and one must learn to differentiate which is which.

Stalk and digest our tendencies to give our power away to authority figures, potential outcomes, finances, or any circumstance that appears “more attractive” than what is present now.

If we do not take these addictions into process, they remain addictions. Each and every way we cling is an opportunity for reclaiming what we have unconsciously given away.

This might show up in the realm of food, romance, work, cleanliness, friendships, and exercise (or lack thereof).

Anything we gravitate toward for habitual comfort needs to be processed. This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be comfortable – just that the habit of being comfortable is power retrieval waiting to happen.

We may even give our power away to the processes I’ve described above. This is not meant to “make you a better person” or “self-improvement”. The motives to be your own shaman need to be explored as well, to ensure it’s not done from a place of comparison to others.

Joshua