Focusing on healing the human is a bit of a gamble without training to dissolve the human form. I’ll explain what I mean.
As we mature we are faced with the question of whether we want to stay identified as the human form or as consciousness.
If we do not identify as consciousness, our relationships are all about our feelings. Our whole lives are about our feelings. Who we attract and attraction is about comfort.
The human form is always chasing comfort. This is what a dog or a bunny would do because this is what animals do. This is how most people identify.
The problem is, this is not freedom for humans because we have this deep emotional programming and a neocortex and so we have a very different role on this planet. We are evolving out of our addiction to emotional identification.
Back into identifying as creativity itself.
When doing so, we stop caring who or what we attract and we also stop caring who or what we are attracted to. In a moment, if something or someone attracts us we may respond with interest but outside of the human form we’re no longer chasing anything to fill a hole.
Romance itself is a sign of manipulation and addiction.
I know this is a radical view, but it has proven to be the case over and over. Romance is not a sustainable or sober approach to relating because it is fixated in feelings which is like trying to stand on water. It is not a solid foundation.
Relating from a place of sobriety is a very different sort of partnership, though it is rarely achieved it is where we are going as a species and personally I will settle for nothing less.
This is not a partnership founded on attraction but rather on co-creation agreements. The soul is attracted to expansion opportunities.
This creates natural vitality and attraction may be the result but it is not the goal. Just as sex may be the result, but it is not the goal.
This is true merging and it requires an incredible level of awareness for both individuals. There isn’t any distance between them and themselves, so intimacy is natural.
With this orientation, so much more is possible than a romantic orientation can ever allow. Ultimately, romance results in a captivity, while true intimacy results in freedom.
So this is why breaking down and differentiating the human form (the personality structure) is foundational to health of any kind including healthy relationships.
One of my teachers literally says that relationships are for enlightened people, and I’m starting to agree with him 
Our souls didn’t incarnate as a human for sentimentality, we came here to accomplish true evolution for our being and I advocate focusing on the real reason we are here. This may seem counterintuitive to “getting what we want” but ultimately establishing a foundation in the path of power and a path with heart makes so many issues of human comfort irrelevant.
Comfort becoming irrelevant is freedom.
That’s when we can really live and love from Choice.
