In the Dream of the World, there are many normalized behaviors that are quite destructive. Some have become obvious as “toxic” in the mainstream, but the majority are still being fought for and maintained.
These include Sympathy, Commiserating, Interrupting, Assuming, and Self-Aggrandizing…
Some or most of these behaviors are directly caused by the normalized neglect that people have unfortunately experienced as children. Neglect has caused our brains to miss out on proper wiring which would otherwise create connection.
Those who have experienced neglect are far less sensitive to their own disrespectful actions, or non-actions, that they take toward another. Disrespect (lack of humility) toward others is actually the norm because very few people are sensitive enough to know the difference at subtle levels.
One such example of behavior that has become normalized is what’s known as “The Silent Treatment”. This way of non-interaction, non-engagement, is the fear-based impulse of freeze/flight.
Of course, if someone is invasively crossing boundaries and mean-spirited, there is no need to entertain that and engage with them. If they are too far gone and impossible to communicate with, then engagement becomes futile and the “block” button makes good sense.
However, when different belief systems are revealed in what is otherwise a solid friendship, it can be difficult for those who experienced neglect to discern between narcissistic tendencies and lucid Seeing.
The ability to deeply See is highly threatening to the human form created of neglect. Especially when there exist traumatic memories and associations with such intensity from previous experiences. When presence and focused attention used to mean abuse, it raises false red flags.
The Silent Treatment is a reenactment of the neglect someone has experienced, which they interpreted as a form of punishment.
The Silent Treatment is itself an unconscious punishment toward the differing and threatening perspective of another. Living in a reward/punishment frame of mind is polarity hell. It’s a lose/lose situation, as enticing as the rewards may seem to be. The one who is dishing out The Silent Treatment may even be deluding themselves that they are fulfilling some sort of “unspoken agreement”, when in fact nothing of the sort exists.
Speaking to people we are afraid of speaking to can be deeply fulfilling and cause us to grow in ways we could never have imagined. Finding the courage to speak to someone who seems to See or Know something we can’t is especially useful in helping our Being to grow.
The more powerful someone becomes and the more deeply someone is able to See, the larger the percentage of people who will be afraid of them. It is a very simple calculation. Powerful people become repulsive to the majority of the population. Sometimes they even go beyond repulsive and become literally invisible. This is the sacrifice one must make on such a journey.
It’s no coincidence that the most powerful beings end up being secluded and protected. The depth of insanity that they trigger by their very existence is because of those deeply hurtful memories which are associated with power.
In the journey of becoming available to power, many friends “check out” along the way for various reasons. Most reasons will involve projections. How could they not? Most reasons will involve their own self-judgment and fear.
Not everyone is interested in or cut out for the embodiment of awakened knowledge, and that’s okay. Everyone has a right to swim in the sea that suits them the most.
“Believe someone when they tell you who they are.”
This opens up space in your field for True connections, available to See you as the essence you really are.